There is one phrase that you may be tempted to say to your child ahead of a sports match, dance show or some other competition they are participating in.
However, according to one coach and dad, this could actually increase their anxiety.
For many kids, it’s important to compete in their chosen extracurricular activity, perform in a show or take an assessment so that they can move on to the next level.
A match or show can be nerve-racking for them, but it’s usually worth it in the end, once it’s done.
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But still, seeing our children nervous or anxious, we will often do whatever we can to ease their stress. This often includes telling them not to be afraid or some sort of similar phrase, which, according to The Coaching Dad, has the complete opposite effect.
Phrase to avoid saying to child before match
According to the coach, who shares tips and information on TikTok, said that it is one of the most common pre match phrases parents use’ but really needs to be avoided.
‘Stop saying “Don’t be nervous” before games, it does the exact opposite,’ the dad told parents.
‘Here’s the truth: telling your child not to be nervous doesn’t make the nerves go away – it actually makes them focus on the fact that they are. Instead, we need to help them channel that energy into confidence and focus.’
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The coach also shared what parents should be saying and doing to their kids before games.
Here’s what he says:
‘1. Highlight your excitement. Simply let them know you’re excited to watch them play. When they know you’ve got their back, the excitement will be contagious.
‘2. Focus on what they can control. Encourage effort and attitude.
‘3. Model calm energy. If you look tense, they’ll mirror it. Stay relaxed, smile, and give off the vibe that this is just another fun day playing a game they love.
‘4. Build confidence through routine. A pre-game routine (music, warmup, etc…) provides comfort and consistency – helping them feel ready, not rattled.’
